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  • Politics Is Like Hiring A Hitman
    by Scott Woods inPolitical on2020-08-13

    For me, politics is like hiring a hitman. I have values and things I care about. I care enough about them to at least bother voting for 5 minutes every year for one issue or another. And because I care at least that much, I vote for people who align with the ability to realize the things I care about.

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  • Punching Above Our Weight
    by Roger Madison Jr. inPolitical on2020-07-24

    I believe our vote is the punctuation of our voice. Without that resounding exclamation mark, I believe our voices are just incoherent noise.

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  • BLACK PROGRESS AMIDST SOCIAL CHAOS
    by Roger Madison Jr. inPolitical on2020-06-16

    Recent events have raised the profile of historical injustice and inequities here in the USA. The entire world has taken note of the fact that BLACK LIVES MATTER.   We invite all of our friends to engage in actions that result in the greatest movement for change in our history. It is imperative that we take advantage of this opportunity to affect a positive change by ACTING IN OUR SELF-INTERESTS.

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  • Living in a Black No-Man's Land
    by Roger Madison Jr. inOur Community on2019-10-28

    There are many narratives that define the Black experience in America in this 2nd decade of the 21st century. Our striving over the centuries of our sojourn in this nation is a tapestry of every human experience -- oppression, enslavement, forced assimilation, dehumanization, exclusion, segregation, isolation, struggle, perseverance, achievement, excellence, celebration, mourning, despair, progress, setbacks, lynching, assassination, genocide, terror, self-hatred, low esteem, pride,...

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  • Fighting Racism
    by Scott Woods inOur Community on2018-10-25

    I had a boss who was racist. Not an outright bigot, of course; her toolbox was more subtle than most. We bumped heads a lot over inconsequential things. She frequently couldn’t keep my name out her mouth. Lot of gaslighting. You know…2018 style. I tried a lot of ways to combat or navigate her issues. None of them worked, and that’s saying a lot because I’m really good at fighting racism. But at the end of the day – every day – she was my boss, I had to deal with her, and that was that. Finally I...

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Social Media and Married Couples

My husband isn't really into online social networking (as you can tell by the number of friends he has) but he did join Facebook and Twitter.  Several months ago, I happened to visit his Facebook page and noticed that he was connected to his ex-wife.  I immediately wanted to know why?  He said, very nonchalantly, she sent him an invitation and he accepted it.  That opened up a can of worms for me.  Why would his ex wife feel the need to be connected to him online?  It didn't make any sense to me and I asked him to defriend her--which I'm happy to report, he did.

That incident brings me to a few points I'd like to share (from a married person's perspective)

1)  If you're married, there should be no reason to seek out and connect to ex spouses or ex lovers.  What's the point?  Thinking it's OK to reconnect with an old flame may eventually put out the fire in your current marriage---especially if you have frequent conversations on Facebook or send too many "tweets."

2)  If you're single and your spouse has re-married (as is the case with my husband's ex), it's best that you leave well enough alone and make no contact.  Again, what's the point?  Connecting online will only draw suspicion from the new spouse--especially if you're not connected with his (her) new better half.

4)  If you see someone you don't know on your spouse's friends page, feel free to 3sk who it is.  If he (she) gets upset about your inquiry or beats around the bush about who the person actually is, you might want to check out that person's page to learn more about them--and a possible connection to your mate.

4)  Trust your spouse to do the right thing.  You shouldn't expect your mate to have the exact same friends as you do and vice versa.  He (she) probably has different interests and will undoubtedly draw like-minded people.  But what you should expect is for your spouse to be up front and honest with you about his (her) connections and not have a problem defriending them if you request it.

Married couples have enough to deal with over the course of their lives together without adding social media chaos to the mix.  If you respect each other online like you do offline, you won't have to worry about defriending anybody.